So Wonks Anonymous spent the afternoon at a wedding. Kurt and George tied the knot at the San Francisco City Hall under the dome, witnessed by about 20 friends and George's mother, a cousin and a niece. There was also a bust of Harvey Milk looking on from the side.

It was a beautiful ceremony, so were the ceremonies before it and after it. In fact it seems that City Hall is quite busy these days as men and women line up to get married before election day - just in case the initiative to ban gay marriage passes.

It was a joyful ceremony but also a ceremony with a lot of tears. Watching it happen all of us felt some kind of weight lifted off our hearts. Here we were doing something that we never really thought would be possible 20 years ago. Seeing something that for most of our lives we would not have even dared to allow ourselves to think about.

While I was waiting on the steps of City Hall I thought about Rick Chiafolo who will be dead two years this December. The big relationship of Rick's life wasn't all that great and I don't recall that he had anything great to say about Gavin Newsom when the weddings started some years ago. Still I wonder what he would say or what his life would have been if he could have seen this happen.

It seems that the initiative, Proposition 8, is losing. We need to make sure it loses because going back just is not an option.